Resentment is an ugly emotion. It colours everything you do and can destroy relationships. If resentment is kept bottled up it transforms into bitterness and jealousy, which is much more painful to get rid of.
The root of resentment is the feeling that someone said something or did something that was unfair. Sometimes it is circumstances and not people who make you feel resentment, and you feel there is nothing you can do about it.
The catch is, sometimes we enjoy the feeling of being a victim and having a good sulk about it. But this is not a good place to be. Feeling bitter cuts you off from other people, including the ones who are innocent.
The cure for resentment is to acknowledge what you are feeling and, if a person or persons are involved, openly communicate what bothers you. My resentment spread might help:
- What are you upset about?
- What makes you angry?
- What do you feel should happen, or be true?
- What can you control in the situation?
- What can you do with the control you have?
- What should you let go of?
- What is there you can feel grateful for?